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Decide

Right now…

Decide you’re worth it and make the most of this week before you.

Ask the hard questions that will get you closer to the authenticity you seek to embrace.  

Live the soft life that will give you experiences and memories to cherish. 

Push a new boundary. 

Pull yourself up from whatever has weighed you down.

Hold onto goodness.

Let every thing not good for you find other settling places.

Share this post with a friend or two who’ll join you on this journey to better. 

Then decide to do it – 

breath by breath, 

choice by choice, 

step by step. 

You’ve got this!

Pace Yourself

Becoming is a lifelong journey. Don’t stop inventing, re-inventing and getting to know yourself.

Pace yourself, 

listen to yourself, 

trust yourself and 

find some joy in every chapter of your journey. 

Be Who You Dream of Becoming

Just imagine…

The rewards that would come  with pushing past fear, 

with setting boundaries that align with our goals or needs, 

with trusting that as long as we stay on our path, what’s meant for us will meet

us on destiny’s road.

Below is a snippet of my conversation on this topic with my friends at Virginia

This Morning, Richmond’s only morning TV news show, hosted on WTVR CBS 6.

Like you, we’re still striving for consistency. As we work toward our goals,

we’re reminding ourselves – and all of us – that there can be joy along the journey. 

View our full conversation here:

Honor Yourself to Better Serve Others

You are the captain of your ship, and therefore of your wellbeing, your purpose and your journey.

Love without condition while still exercising wisdom.

Give generously while setting appropriate boundaries.

Dream big and don’t settle. It may take time, but the time will be just right.

Say no when doing so gives you the space to practice self-care.

Lean into “not now” when this will keep you safer rather than sorry.

However, always say yes to honoring your intuition, character and integrity – even when this means standing alone.

Be willing to sacrifice short-term gains in order to experience lasting blessings.

Know that you are worthy and embrace this truth with confidence and contentment.

Follow Your Flow

Entering a new week and winding down the month of October offers you a chance this week to reflect, refocus and renew your commitments to you.

Remember who you are and Whose you are, 

and respond accordingly to today’s opportunities 

to love, serve, be on the move,

or be still and know.

Because when you know more, 

you do indeed grow more; 

and as you know and grow,

you bless others so sincerely 

with your overflow 

that you find yourself

doubly blessed in the process.

Pay attention and you’ll witness the ways! 

Stay the Course

As we settle into fall and and race toward the end of the year, don’t fret over what you haven’t yet checked off your list of goals; be grateful for what you have managed to achieve, and more importantly, for how you’ve grown.

Assess how you’ve nurtured, cared for, loved or mentored others, and give thanks for those who have poured some measure of tenderness and time into you.

Lean into all that fall holds and don’t stop striving. Stay the course in becoming.

Cherish those who cherish you, yet love everyone unconditionally.

Generously support and serve others, yet set boundaries to protect your self-care. 

Forgive and forge ahead.  Laugh and lighten up.

Dance or walk in the rain. Take chances and embrace joy.

Appreciate each day and embrace the lessons that this season, and previous ones, have offered.

Make peace with your present. Set new goals and arch toward new moutains. 

Whatever you do, don’t dim your shine. As someone once said, keep being the light you are and others’ eyes will adjust.

You, me – we – are imperfectly human. But we’re here! And as long as we have breath, we’re meant to stay the course.

Lean Into the Shadows of You

September is a great time to determine what you’ll focus on pursuing or releasing the final few months of 2024. Your answers to these questions can pinpoint your heart’s desires, your life’s calling, or your need to delve deeper within. 

Set aside some quiet time to courageously listen, pray and journal. During that process, name your fears and claim the bold ideas and dreams that lie just beyond them.

Taking this path may require you to stand alone for a season – perhaps to foster your pruning and perfecting. 

On other days, you may be compelled to stand by as others race past – giving you an opportunity to celebrate their wins, as you take consistent steps in the right direction. (Trusting that there are enough to go around.) 

Every day, you can choose to stand in light and love, so that as you give it, you become it.  This effort may be the most important of all, so that as you lean into becoming “what” you have in mind, “who” you are becoming simultaneously aligns.

What better way would there be to end this year?

Stay on Your Path

Five years ago today, I posted the photo and the sentiments below about the start of September and the looming end of this year. All these years later, this digital journal entry of sorts still resonates and feels worth sharing.

As you launch into September 2024, may my reflections on walking my life’s path encourage you to more fully appreciate your own:

I entered the first day of September (2019) with a morning trek along a path that was brand new to me. It was beautiful, breezy and serene. 

I talked to God, and then I stilled myself to listen, even as my feet kept moving. 

Then I saw it – a juncture in the road where the paved path yielded to gravel – leading to uncultured, unknown territory, and to a bend around which I could not see.

I advanced a few feet, then retreated, deciding to explore more fully on another day.

For in that moment, I had all I needed – fresh air, a lush green setting and a visual reminder that at every turn, I am loved, worthy and deserving of joy. That was the response that filled my listening heart.

That walk reminded me that even when we’re on the right path, we’ll encounter some pebbles, stones, rough patches and dirt. We won’t always know the end before we begin or even when we’re mid-journey. Yet, that’s why it’s so important to enjoy each step of the journey itself and to find value in each phase. 

In the right season, at the appointed time, we will discover the beauty around those bends, and perhaps appreciate the extra effort (courage?) required to get there. 

Wherever we are on our path today, we can lean into the truths of how God has already blessed us. Think back over your life for a few minutes and count the ways. 

Then, set your intentions, determine what you’ll do next (or how you’ll surrender), and say “thank you” in advance for the good that lies ahead – on paved roads, gravelly paths, wood trails and all.

U-Turns Are Allowed

Life is a gift that is meant to be unwrapped. Make the most of it by honoring those whispers in your heart. 

You may not get it right the first time, but a misstep may be part of your personal tango. A delay may not be a denial, and you shouldn’t automatically place a period where perhaps God is simply inserting a comma, for you to pause.

And guess what? U-Turns and detours are allowed, too.

On life’s path, listening, learning and walking out your destiny may require some or all of the above.

Just remember that there’s nothing lost or wasted if you’re paying attention and embracing the lessons you encounter along the way.

New visions and goals are also permissible. Challenge yourself to approach those opportunities with confidence, wisdom and self-respect.

Keep living life to the fullest – whatever that looks like for you in this season – and remember to give thanks along the way.

How to Refine Your Reading List in Ways that Refine You

By Stacy Hawkins Adams

Every successful organization or business has a mission statement or brand statement that drives its leaders’ decision making and direction – why not you?

I shared this perspective recently with a group of women and men that I led through a series of teleconference calls about purpose, goal-setting and faith; and during our discussion, I offered to give them a peek at my personal library – the one filled with books that have guided and shaped my perspective on life, living with intention and executing with excellence.

As we sit on the verge of a new year, which always brings with it hope for second, third or any number of new chances and possibilities, I decided to also share these literary gems with you.

I’ve read the books listed here over a 15-year (or so) period, at various stages of adulthood and maturity; so you may find a few of the titles too elementary. Perhaps you can recommend those particular books to young adults you’re mentoring or helping raise.

Yet some of the books I’ve chosen may indeed pique your interest, grace your reading list and help you grow, too.

Vastly more important than having you embrace the topics and authors that have resonated with me is for the list to serve as a catalyst for you becoming a version of yourself that you can consistently honor and love.

Indeed, all of these books have been foundational in some manner to the expansion of my heart, my vision, my perspective, my dreams  and my faith:

  • Listen to Your Life: Following Your Unique Path to Extraordinary Success by Valorie Burton
  • Making Life Work: Putting God’s Wisdom into Action by Bill Hybels
  • The Measure of Our Success: A Letter to My Children and Yours by Marian Wright Edelman
  • The Life God Blesses: Weathering the Storms of Life that Threaten the Soul by Gordon MacDonald
  • Wouldn’t Take Nothing for My Journey Now by Maya Angelou
  • If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat by John Ortberg
  • In Search of Satisfaction by J. California Cooper
  • The Testament by John Grisham
  • Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers
  • The Color Purple by Alice Walker

I could include quite a few more! This is just a start, to jumpstart your efforts to embrace reading that can help you wake up, get up, trust yourself, believe in your dreams and stretch to new heights.

Buy a new journal to record your thoughts from the books you choose to read. Use that same journal to craft a personal mission statement or brand value, based on who you want to become.

As a man (or woman) thinketh, so is he (or she). The words you ingest matter, and so do you. Read your way to wholeness, joy and purpose, then write that vision – with tangible steps and timelines – to ensure that your goals become your reality.

I’m rooting for you.